Therefore, I behold death, since it teaches me how to live. Carl Jung

The leaves have been falling to the ground. We are in the time of late autumn with its rhythm of Ending. This is part of the life cycle. Did you know that in Chinese Medicine, every season has its own energy and its own rhythm? For example, the energy of spring is pressure and urgency, nature is ready to come alive again, to pop out of the ground and have life flowing through the veins of everything living.  

Every person is born with an energy that corresponds to one of the seasons: spring, summer, autumn, winter, and solstice/ equinox, or a combination of them, and even though you have the energies of all seasons within you, the ones that are more dominant will leave an imprint on your physical body, your physiology, your vulnerabilities, and your character.

As you go through life, you go through phases that also match the seasons. For example, when you were conceived until about 18 months of age you were in the rhythm of winter where new life is developing in the womb, waiting to emerge with so much potential for the future.

Life events such as an accident, an illness, or a loss suddenly push you into the season of solstice/ equinox (Indian summer). It is the energy of transitioning from one season to the next. It is a season where the past and the future meet in the present moment. You are dealing with what is, you are trying to stay steadfast, and assimilate the change. While you are going through this transition period, you must nurture yourself, support yourself as you go through an ending and enter a new beginning. There is no time for self judgment or blame, it is all about going into the future with experiences and learnings from the past. To live in balance, it is important that you align with your own rhythm as well as the rhythm that represents in your life right now.

The season that follows is autumn, with its rhythm of Ending. This season connects us with the spiritual nature of our being. It carries the emotions of sadness and grief, but also inspiration, fullness, and faith.

If you embrace this season, the energy of it, you come into a feeling of peace of completion. You let go of the old to make room for new life. It is like the leaves that have been fallen to the ground fertilize the earth for the next cycle. It is the season of reflection and evaluation of what is valuable to keep and what needs to be eliminated. You feel a knowing, a truth about what needs to happen, and that is an inspiration for yourself and others. Everything that doesn’t serve you anymore – thoughts, behaviours, feelings – is going to be eliminated.

Cultures around the world honour the dead with beautiful traditions and festivals, most of them taking place in autumn [How Cultures Around The World Honor The Dead]. 

Why is it that beyond our differences of nationalities and cultures, we all have in common to remember and connect with the departed ones? 

Because there is one certainty in life… and that is death. We cannot be certain when our time has come to part into another realm but we can be certain that that time will come. 

Making peace with the energy of autumn, the Ending, is a start to overcome fear of death. Being ok with the fact that life is only temporary. That doesn’t mean that you are giving up, or you will die because you didn’t try harder. It is actually the other way around, if you are at peace with life on this earth being transient, that you are a visitor here, and you ask yourself daily questions like…

  • What can I focus on today that makes this day important to me? 
  • What is the the best use of this day? 
  • How can I make this day special day for me… and others? 
  • What do I need today to have a beautiful day?
  • How can I feel more at peace in my body, my mind, my soul?

…you put your attention towards life, and where you put your attention is where you put your energy, and (physical) matter follows energy. 

When I woke up from an induced coma after my accident, my brain was compromised in processing speed, movement, and noise. I had a hard time getting on an escalator because it moved “too fast”. The doctor said: “You have a brain of an 85 year old and we don’t know if it will ever get better”. I was 26. I trained my brain for hours every single day to make it faster. Nothing changed for about a year. I was exhausted and went into depression. One day, I did a meditation, and in that meditation I said to God, “I give up. You let me survive this accident. I don’t know why but I trust you, and no matter my condition, I will be ok. I’ll find something that I can do with my life, with my body, and my brain as it is.” That week, my test results went from 30% up to 70%. I felt that I was given life again.

That was the moment I understood the true meaning of “surrender”. I let go of fighting my condition, and freed up energy towards the healing of my body. I aligned with the energy of autumn. 

I know that surrendering to your condition might not cure you from cancer, but what I’ve seen is how much peace and healing it brought to mind and heart.      

Another aspect of overcoming fear of death is looking at what exactly you are afraid of… 

Is it… 

  • the unknown
  • the uncertainty
  • being judged (by God or some other greater force)
  • the fear of more suffering
  • the fear of separation, to leave your loved ones behind
  • the fear of extinction

Looking at these questions reveal thoughts and beliefs that might not have originated with you. Where are they coming from? Who else thought about life and death this way?

Overcoming fear of death involves looking at your fears, and going on a quest to find answers that give you peace of mind, and open your heart. This is a journey… you might start looking into stories of people who had Near Death Experiences (NDE), and what they saw, and how it felt [NDE]. You might study the beliefs of certain cultures, or religions about death. You might find that you don’t believe in a life after death and feel ok with it. There is no right or wrong, there is only what makes you feel at peace.

Donna Eden writes in her book Energy Medicine: “Elisabeth Kübler-Ross [a  pioneer in near-death studies, and author of the book On death and Dying] observed that the best way to prepare for your eventual dying is to meet with consciousness the ‘little deaths’ life continually provides… There is a heaviness in these tasks [of completion] and you know the grief of what might have been but was not to be. With maturity, however, an autumn’s grief transforms into an identification with the whole cycle, at peace with life, at peace with death.”

I had a beautiful conversation with a long-term cancer surviver the other day who shared with me what her doctor said to her: “It is not about the quantity of days, it’s about the quality”… and this is how she lived her life with cancer.

Aspire to live every day like a “Best Day Ever”.

Much love and peace ♥️

Mona